"You were not born a
winner, and you were not born a loser. You are what you make yourself
be."
- Lou Holtz
Low self-esteem can interfere
with your life. There are many reasons for people to have low
self-esteem just as there are many ways to reduce or remove this
issue.
The article below discusses this
problem and offers some tips on moving forward with your life and
overcoming low self-esteem
As always MWBA presents this
information for your review and education. You should always consult
with professionals, doctors, psychiatrists, etc, before starting any
improvement program.
Michael Wilkovesky
The Dangers of Low Self Esteem -
by Philip Fowler
Some may think that low self
esteem just means a person does not think as highly of themselves as
they should. That is a dangerously oversimplified definition of that
phrase. At its worst, low self esteem can damage every aspect of a
person’s life. It can have a negative impact on their job,
relationships, ability to parent and even their ability to live a
healthy life.
An Unhealthy Life
When someone suffers from very
low self esteem, they may walk around with a “why bother”
attitude. Because they think so poorly of themselves, they may not
even bother trying to stay healthy. Many, but not all, people with
low self esteem are overweight.
Being overweight and failing to
exercise can lead to a host of health problems including heart
disease and diabetes.
Dreams Unfulfilled
While people with low self esteem
DO have dreams and goals, those dreams often go unfulfilled, because
they constantly second guess their abilities. Keep in mind that even
people that are extremely talented can suffer from low self esteem.
This thinking of “I can’t do
it” often ends up being a self-fulfilling prophecy and the dreams
one had are left unfinished.
A Generational Curse
One of the biggest tragedies of
very low self esteem is that it is often passed to the next
generation. A parent who thinks he or she is worthless often see
their children as an extension of themselves and, therefore, the
child must be worthless as well.
Even if they try very hard not
to, many of these parents pass a message to their child that they are
less than or not as good as others.
Of all of the reasons to try and
find help for the problem, this is one of the most compelling. It is
possible not to only hinder one’s own life with a burden of low
self esteem, but to burden one’s children with that same weight.
Finding Help
For those wishing to find help
for low self esteem, there are a couple of choices about where to
start. The first is to start on your own. Take a class, and learn to
do something new. Step outside your comfort zone by speaking up when
you have a good idea. Start taking better care of yourself by eating
healthy and starting an exercise plan. All of these ideas can put you
on the path to raising your self worth.
Of course, the tips above are not
going to be enough to help everyone. Some people may need
professional help in order to begin seeing themselves as they really
are: worthy of all the good things this world has to offer.
There is no shame in choosing to
talk to someone about your low self esteem. A good counselor will
help you learn to replace the negative messages (“I can’t do
this”) with positive messages (“I can do anything if I give it my
all”). Also, they may be able to help you pinpoint exactly where
this started, and thus help you learn a whole new way of thinking
about yourself.
You deserve to fulfill your
goals. You deserve a happy relationship. Your kids deserve a parent
who understands her own worth and can pass that on to them.
There are many reasons to try and
improve low self esteem, but the best reason is the one staring at
you in the mirror. The best reason is simply because you ARE worth
it.
Source:
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low self esteem please visit http://www.help4socialanxiety.com
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"Always be a first-rate
version of yourself, instead of a second-rate version of somebody
else."
~ Judy Garland
When you meet
someone do you show that you have self-confidence or do you come
across as someone who is not too sure of themselves?
The article
below gives some advice on how to show self-confidence to the outside
world.
Michael
Wilkovesky
Convey Self
Confidence - Gain Respect - by Ian Russell
Has anyone
ever said to you... push your shoulders back, puff your chest out,
get your chin up – if so you have heard a few of the popular
expressions people use to stimulate someone into making a good
impression. These expressions indicate how important our bearing and
body language are in imparting who we are to the world. If you are
fortunate enough to have been brought up in a family with the means
to enrol you in deportment and elocution lessons, these would have
taught you how to carry yourself with elegance and poise thereby
conveying an air of self-confidence to those around you. It is more
likely, however, that the majority of readers, and indeed the writer,
did not reap the benefits of lessons in etiquette. While you don’t
have to speak like Queen Elizabeth to convey confidence, body
language and intonation is important and here is why.
There is a lot
of truth in the old saying that first impressions count. In fact,
within just 5 seconds of meeting someone we will already have formed
a judgement that will affect our behaviour towards them. It
definitely isn’t easy getting ourselves noticed in this hectic
modern world and when this is applied to a job market which is
progressively more competitive, making the right impression can make
or break your chances of having a successful interview or business
deal.
Where to
start? In a moment we will look at what not to do, but firstly let’s
make ourselves aware that self-confidence is a form of strength and
that is why it is so attractive to others. Bearing that in mind, try
to portray yourself in a way that avoids you looking inhibited or
vulnerable. Some examples of this type of body language are: hanging
your head, slouching your shoulders, or avoiding direct eye contact.
These particular actions imply to others that you have a problem with
self-belief. Whether it’s for an interview or a business deal, you
don’t have to be Einstein to see that people won’t believe in you
as an ‘investment’ if the investment does not believe in itself.
Correspondingly, in your personal life people will immediately pick
up on the signals you give. Given that, what should be your plan of
action?
The opposite
of the examples given above should be first on the list - holding
your head high and standing with your shoulders back are both
confident gestures. But the most important signal of them all is eye
contact. Maintaining eye contact while speaking and listening
generates a sense of familiarity, resolve and sincerity between
yourself and the other person. If I told you that a recent survey
asked a group of venture capitalists what they looked for in a
successful pitch and that the top answer mostly came back as eye
contact, would you then take it seriously?
In order to
install it as a natural aspect of your personality you will need to
maintain an air of confidence at all times. This applies in every
situation whether easy or stressful. It is a popular belief that you
see the true measure of someone when the chips are down and in my own
experience I have found that is usually the case. In stressful
situations some people panic and rather than looking for a solution
to the problem in a rational and composed way they will blame others
and look for the easy way out. To be an effective leader who commands
respect from their inferiors you must deal with stress in a positive
and confident manner, if you can’t do this then perhaps being at
the front is not for you. By remaining calm under pressure you are
far more likely to project the right image to others.
What you
display needn’t necessarily be the same as what you feel - even if
your apparent demeanour is not a true reflection of what is going on
inside, you will still convey the appropriate signals to encourage
those around you. That is the remarkable thing about confident body
language. All it takes is a simple gesture to inspire confidence and
respect in those around you.
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"Someone's opinion of you
does not have to become your reality." ~ Les Brown
If you suffer from low self
esteem, you can deal it a crushing blow.
The article below gives 3 ways to
defeat this negative thought process.
Michael Wilkovesky
Low Self Esteem - 3 Easy Ways to
Crush Low Self Esteem - by Sam Arch
Low self esteem is a devastating
downward spiral of negative thinking. Every negative thought you have
about yourself dents your confidence. That in turn is made obvious to
anyone that meets you and they react to that. This then reaffirms
your perception of yourself as useless and worthless.
The only way to break out of the
black hole of low self esteem is to smash this negative thinking
spiral and replace it with a positive thinking cycle. This is
sometimes referred to as a virtuous circle. Positive thoughts make
you more self confident. People see this and treat you as someone
worthy of their attention. This reaffirms your self belief and so on.
So if the secret to improving
your self esteem is in changing your subconscious thought patterns,
how can you do it? Easy. Build up an arsenal of powerful 'mind
weapons' which you will use every day until they become second nature
to you. Usually within about thirty days.
Here are three quick and easy
'mind weapons' to get you started. Although simple to use, they
become hugely effective when you develop the habit of using them and
they take effect on autopilot.
The first mind weapon is the
fixed positive thought. Your aim is to create one extremely powerful
positive thought about yourself which you will draw upon every time
you feel bad about yourself. To make this powerful, listen to your
favourite happy song with your eyes closed and imagine yourself doing
something you are good at and really enjoy.
Do this exercise every day for a
month until the image is deep in your mind. Every time you feel low,
go and listen to that song and close your eyes if you are in a place
to do so. Over time you can recreate this in your own mind without
having to close your eyes or even listen to the song. It will take
place in your mind.
The second mind weapon is switch
thinking. Imagine walking into a party and someone attractive looks
over at you. Your low self esteem reaction would be to think that
that person thinks you are ugly and boring. Instantly switch that
thought to the exact opposite. Imagine that look means they find you
attractive and they are catching your eye hoping you will come and
talk to them.
Cue your fixed positive thought
and then give a quick smile back and move straight on with purpose to
something else whilst fixing an imagine in your mind that the other
person has smiled back. Giving someone a smile whilst not waiting for
one back shows the other person extreme self confidence and they will
admire you for that. Over time you will feel comfortable with this
and allow yourself to wait for the real smile back which will
ultimately come.
The third mind weapon is critical
thinking. If you are self conscious you will imagine that everyone is
judging you and your actions every second of the day. You are
processing those negative thoughts almost constantly and it is
exhausting and humiliating.
With critical thinking, make snap
decisions on how to process these incoming thoughts. You cannot
prevent these thoughts coming in but you can decide to simply ignore
them. If it is all too much for you simply allow the thoughts, as
they say, to pass in one ear and straight out of the other. Then just
switch to your fixed positive thought.
If you have a bit more confident
with this you can allow the negative thought to be stay long enough
to be processed. In most cases you will recognise that it is an
irrational thought and not worthy of reacting to and let it go.
What about those negative
thoughts that do seem to have some rational truth to them? This is
where you make the biggest leap. You accept that nobody is perfect
and there is absolutely no way you can please everybody all of the
time. Think to yourself "Yeah? And so what..." Honestly,
try it. It is one of the most liberating thoughts you can have.
The key to successfully
dispelling low self esteem and building immense self confidence is to
create your own personal arsenal of these quick and easy mind
weapons. Use each one at least once a day for a month until they
become second nature. A habit or subconscious thought pattern then
happens automatically. You have nothing to lose and everything to
gain if you give them a try.
Source:
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esteem into rock solid self confidence in just thirty days with this
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“
The difference between
stupidity and genius is that genius has its limits.” - Albert
Einstein
We all know many intelligent
people who don't seem to be able to be successful in a business or in
relationships.
The article below provides some
information on how intelligence is measured and how it is perceived
in our society.
Michael Wilkovesky
How Important is Intelligence For
Success? - by Royane Rea
Although IQ tests measure a
certain aspect of intelligence potential, there isn’t complete
agreement that what is being measured is actually intelligence.
Standard intelligence tests focus
a lot on exploring and measuring linguistic/logical/mathematical
ability. But is that really the same quality as intelligence? Or is
intelligence something broader than that?
We have all met people who have a
lot of “book smarts” but seem to have no “life smarts.”
Should we really be saying that they are intelligent? Some people who
did poorly in school often turn out to be very successful in later
life. Why do our current IQ tests seem unable to predict or explain
these outcomes?
A person may have failed dismally
in school, and yet turn out to be a genius in marketing. Is this
person stupid, or brilliant? If a man is a great scientist, but can’t
ever pick a suitable mate, is he really very smart?
Was Picasso inept because he
wasn’t also a brilliant mathematician? Was Einstein inadequate
because he wasn’t also a great artist?
Which of these two men had more
intelligence? Is there more than one kind of intelligence? How should
we define intelligence? Can we really measure it? What is
intelligence, really?
Several experts in the field of
intelligence have proposed that we need to broaden our understanding
of what intelligence really is, and the role it plays in successful
living.
Psychologist Howard Gardner of
Harvard University has suggested that we should consider a wide range
of talents and abilities as valid forms of intelligence.
In his intriguing book, “Frames
of Mind: Theories of Multiple Intelligences”, Gardner has proposed
the existence of at least seven types of intelligence:
verbal-linguistic, logical-mathematical, visual-spatial, musical,
bodily-kinesthetic, social-interpersonal and intra-personal.
Another psychologist, Robert
Sternberg, has suggested we consider three distinct forms of
intelligence. One type is the ability to think logically and
rationally, doing well in an academic type of environment.
A second kind of intelligence
identified by Sternberg is the ability to come up with creative
solutions to real life situations. And the third type, according to
Sternberg, is the ability to psychologically understand people and
interact effectively with them.
A very different perspective on
the IQ issue is presented by Daniel Goleman in his best-selling book,
“Emotional Intelligence”. Goleman offers an explanation for why a
high IQ does not always lead to success in career or in life.
He says that EQ, or emotional
intelligence, has been an overlooked factor that is an extremely
important ingredient for success in life. An ability to get along
with others, to be optimistic, to be determined, are among the many
factors that contribute to success, perhaps even more than
intellectual ability.
Are you starting to realize that
intelligence is not just a question of one test score number that
forever limits your possibilities? If we define intelligence
primarily as an aptitude for mathematical and linguistic/logical
thinking, we may be missing other forms of intelligence that are also
important.
If you happen to know your own IQ
score, don’t think of it as something that limits or defines your
potential. If your IQ is in the average range it does not in any way
mean you are limited to a life of average success and average
accomplishment. If your IQ is in the above average range, it does not
guarantee you a life of ease. You can’t use either a high IQ score
or a low one as an excuse not to try very hard.
Your IQ score is only a number.
It does not define you. It does not really limit you. It’s just a
starting point. Remember that many other qualities you already
possess or can develop are also important for success in life.
Source:
This article is taken from the
new book by Royane Real titled “How You Can Be Smarter – Use Your
Brain to Learn Faster, Remember Better, and Be More Creative” If
you want to learn how to use your brain better download it today or
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“
A rat race is for rats.
We're not rats. We're human beings. Reject the insidious pressures in
society that would blunt your critical faculties to all that is
happening around you, that would caution silence in the face of
injustice lest you jeopardise your chances of promotion and
self-advancement.” - Jimmy Reid
We all want to be better people
as well as having time to be with friends and family. Unfortunately,
most of us need to work.
The article below gives 7
principals that can be used to escape the rat race. While the
examples are related to Internet marketing, these principals will
work in anyone's life.
Michael Wilkovesky
Escape The Rat Race By Using
These 7 Proven Principles - by Merv Stevens
Successful internet marketer Joel
Peterson, recently gave a talk on how to escape the rat race by using
7 proven principles. During the talk Joel gave some information on
his past and how he used to work in corporate America but managed to
escape that way of life nine years ago and has not looked back since.
So what are the principles Joel
used to make this amazing transformation to a life of success and
enjoyment for him and his family. Well he used 7 Proven Principles
ANYONE can follow to escape the rat race.
Principle #1: Know Your Why
A few years ago Joel didn’t
even know the meaning of the phrase “know your why”. He was not
into personal development and the last book he had read was a Harry
Potter novel.
But now things have changed. Joel
is an avid reader constantly renewing and improving his mind. His big
“why” is spending time with his family, going on trips together
and attending his children's school events. This “why” has given
him the desire and motivation to do what it takes to succeed in the
network marketing and internet marketing arena.
It needs to be deeper than just
getting more money or the big fancy house or car. It needs to be
written down so that you can refer to it and remind yourself of what
what your working towards when things get tough. Everyone’s “why’”
is different, but you need to identify yours and work on it.
Principle #2: Your Beliefs
This is a big, big, big one. You
have to believe that whatever you are doing can really work. It’s
not just believing in the company you are with or the opportunity,
but believing in yourself. You have to have the belief that YOU can
accomplish things and that it can happen for you. And how do you do
that… you need to hear the testimonies of other people who are
achieving success. This can be done by logging into company calls and
webinars or by attending events.
People are attracted to positive
people and so you have to put any negative attitudes you have aside.
Start using positive words in your language and remove negative words
like “can’t”.
Principle #3: How You Treat
Others
Unfortunately there are some
internet marketers who treat people more like dollar signs rather
than real living human beings. They do not care what type of product
or services they sell as long as they are making money. We all know
there are great internet marketing products out there, like Pure
Leverage, which you can sell knowing that it will be of value and
benefit to others. However, there are also a lot of scammy products
that do not work and are a waste of time and money.
The unscrupulous internet
marketer will sell all kinds of products, whether good or bad, and
look upon their customers as numbers from whom money can be made. But
a business run in this way will not last. If you want to build a
long-term sustainable home business you have to stop treating people
merely as dollar signs.
You have to remember that there
is a real person behind everyone of your transactions – a person
just like you. If you start respecting your customers and thinking
about them as real people then you will go onto build a profitable
business with large and successful teams.
Principle #4: Taking Action
This is huge because when many
people first get involved in a business they very get excited. They
come to the seminars, go through the courses and may even get a blog.
But unfortunately they do NOT do the actionable things required to
build a business. When you start out you have to be focused and take
action on the things that are really going to help you grow your
business.
Escape The Rat Race By Using
These 7 Proven Principles
If you are consistent in these
actions then you will achieve success. When you get results then you
will get more excited and take further effective action that will
grow your business even more. But what is the #1 action to guarantee
success? Invite people to take a look at your business opportunity.
There are a number of ways to do this. You can invite people online
or invite people in person.
If you focus just on this one
action and invite people to take a look at a video, a presentation or
attend a seminar, then you will achieve success. If you are not
inviting everyday, whether that be on your blog, on your newsletter
or in person, you will not have as much success. Even if you are the
worst inviter, if you do enough of it, you will get better and in
time become a master inviter and recruiter.
Principle #5: How You Handle
Failure
A lot of the time people look at
a successful marketer like Joel Peterson and say “Oh, but you’re
so successful and everything you do turns to gold“. But he had
failed in many business previously, from a windscreen repair company,
to solid waste disposal management and network marketing. Joel learnt
from these failures.
If you quit and just curl up in a
ball and turn the TV on and go back to your life of “quiet
desperation” then you have a problem. Do not be afraid to fail. All
successful people have had failures but they have learnt from them
and used them as stepping stones on their path to success.
Principle #6: Keeping It Simple
Internet marketing can be a
complicated business – choosing a niche, building a blog, finding
keywords, driving traffic, etc. But you need to focus on simplicity.
Do a few simple things over and over again and teaching others to do
the same, is all you need to build a successful business online.
Here’s the thing…. when you
focus on those simple activities and you plug yourself into what is
called the “School of Involvement”, over time you will learn
those things that you think are complicated. Focusing on the simple
activities will generate income now and those other things will take
care of themselves. If you are trying to learn to much at one time
and complicating things, then you are not keeping it simple and you
will get over-whelmed.
Principle #7: Duplication
A lot of people are not aware of
what duplication means. It means getting a group of people to do a
few simple things over a consistent period of time. Once this happens
then the people you teach will have success and the people they teach
will also have success. Before you know it you will begin to get
forty emails a day of downline signups and customer signups.
What happens as your business
starts to grow is that you will find people who will begin to grow
their business without needing you because duplication has occurred.
This will happen as long as you follow a system that is simple and
you teach other people to follow the same simple system. In this way
you can grow a very large business.
You’ll have to watch out for
the “Internet Marketing Hustle”. A lot of internet marketers
live from product launch to product launch. They create a product and
then launch it relying on JV’s (joint venture partners) to promote
it. This is then repeated again and again – the “Internet
Marketing Hustle”. In this way you haven’t really created a
business but just a glorified job, working crazy hours.
This method of business does not
have duplication. Having a business with duplication pays you by
leveraging not only your won efforts but also the effort of others.
Focus on leverage.
The principals mentioned above
will help you get rid of the chains that keep you tied to the
corporate world. Focusing on these 7 Proven Principles and taking
action will bring you success. Concentrate on the things that you
want to overcome, have belief, be consistent in taking action and
eventually you too will escape the rat race.
Source:
Merv Stevens works in Internet
and Network Marketing. For tips and advice and to find the best way
for you to escape the rat race, go to his blog: Wealth Success
Ventures. Act now and discover how average people are achieving
extraordinary results online by cashing in on the DIGITAL gold rush!
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“
There can be no failure to
a man who has not lost his courage, his character, his self respect,
or his self-confidence. He is still a King.” - Orison Swett Marden
We all want to have confidence in
ourselves. We like the idea that we can complete things and be more
in control of our future.
The article below talks about 5
myths of self-confidence.
Michael Wilkovesky
5 Myths about Self-Confidence -
by Bosschat
People who have self-confidence
believe in themselves and feel that they are capable of achieving
anything that they want to in life, or dealing with any situation
that they may have to face. They have an aura of self-confidence and
self-assurance, which is apparent to others. People like to spend
time with them; they feel comfortable and secure in their presence.
In contrast, there are many
people who are talented, but who lack self-confidence. These people
are victims of the several myths that surround self-confidence.
Myth One: People are born with
Self-Confidence
Nothing could be further from
truth. Self-confidence, like other skill, can be learnt and built up.
All that you need is the right guidance and a belief in yourself.
Myth Two: Only Good Looking
People are Self-Confident
Some people blame their low
self-confidence to their lack of good looks. They don’t realize
that self-confidence has nothing to do with their looks. The only way
they can overcome this myth is by learning to believe in themselves.
Myth Three: Only Talented People
are Self-Confident
In fact, talent and
self-confidence are not inter-related. There are scores of talented
actors and actresses who do very well in their professions but whose
personal lives are torn by lack of self-confidence. It may sound
contradictory, but this is how life is. Talent can be an important
component of self-confidence, but it is certainly not a substitute
for self-confidence. So, don’t worry about lack of talent. Harness
the skills that you possess.
Myth Four: Self Confidence is
directly proportional to Praise Received
There is little doubt that
recognition and praise make you feel good about yourself, and boost
your self-confidence. But you can’t simply depend on the praise
lavished by others. You have to work hard to earn that praise, and
you can do this only if you are self-confident.
We should look at children.
Children believe in themselves, and this gives them the
self-confidence to try to do things they have never done before, be
it learning how to cycle or swim. It does not take long to teach
children most of the basic skills. Why should it be difficult for
adults to learn new skills or brave new challenges?
Myth Five: Only Self-Confident
People Can Afford to Take Risks
This again is not true. In fact,
self-confident people are more realistic about their capabilities.
They know what they can do, and what they can’t do. More
importantly, they know how to deal with failures. In contrast, people
who lack self-confidence are afraid of failure. This fear prevents
them from taking on new tasks. They constantly pine for the approval
of others, and when they don’t get it they end up losing their
self-confidence.
It’s clear that there is a lack
of understanding. Self-confidence is a state of mind. It is not
dependent upon a person’s beauty or looks. It flows from a person’s
self-belief, and this belief can be built. All that a person needs to
do is to debunk myths that self-confidence cannot be acquired or that
self-confidence is a byproduct of exceptional knowledge, skills and
luck. Once they do so, they will find it easier to acquire the same
magnetic powers that self-confident people have
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“
Success in life is founded
upon attention to the small things rather than to the large things;
to the every day things nearest to us rather than to the things that
are remote and uncommon.” - Booker T. Washington
We are more successful than we
imagine, it is just that we sometimes sabotage our belief in our
success by thinking or taking about the negatives that happened in
our day.
The article below gives some
advice and tips on overcoming this negative limiting belief.
You
can read other articles and advice on success, positive thinking and
more at: Thinking
Successfully
More
articles and information on business success can be found at: MWBA
Success
Michael Wilkovesky
How to Feel More Successful In
Life - by Kari Farmer
Every day you accomplish tasks,
meet goals, check things off your to-do list, and become more
successful in life. You continuously work towards having the life
that you want, and everything you do is one step towards that life.
But if you are anything like me you don’t feel successful every
single day of your life – even though you’ve accomplished a lot
in your days.
Feeling like a failure is
habit-forming. We constantly focus on the things that we don’t do,
or don’t succeed at in life, and we call ourselves failures because
of these things. The truth is we have many more successes in life
than failures but we choose to put our attention on the things we
didn’t get done.
I’m not just talking about huge
things that we are striving to be successful at in our lives. I’m
also talking about the little things that we do every day that affect
how we feel about ourselves.
Let’s say you are a business
man who is trying to further his career and lose weight as well.
Here’s an example of a typical day:
- Drive to work with no
accidents.
- Accomplish all the tasks
set out to do.
- Exercise 1 hour.
- Make an important phone
call.
- Send an important email.
- Learn something new.
- Eat really crappy food the
entire day.
The list above contains a lot of
successes throughout the day, and one failure in the eyes of someone
trying to lose weight or eat healthier. What do you think he most
likely focuses on at the end of the day? His focus will probably turn
to the fact that he ate really crappy food all day and take over the
spotlight from the rest of his successes during the day.
This is what many people do, and
it’s hard to feel successful when you focus on your failures. But
there is a way to feel more successful in your life! Put the majority
of your focus on your successes!
You can do this by reminding
yourself every night of the successes you had during the day instead
of the failure, and build on those successful endeavours for future
success.
One way to do this is by keep a
success journal. Every night before you go to bed write down at least
5 things that you succeeded at during the day. This will be personal
to you but it can range from brushing your teeth to landing the big
account! Anything that furthered you in your life, made you feel
better, made you do better, and pushed you forward is a success.
Write down your success, why you
felt is was a success, how you can add-on to that success, and your
next action to take towards that success.
For example:
Success – Made an important
phone call
Reason – Built a new
relationship with an important person.
Further progress – Keep in
contact with that person.
Next action – Arrange a lunch
meeting for next Thursday with this new contact.
Making a habit of doing a success
journal nightly will allow you to see that there are many things that
you do during the day that you are successful at and it will stop you
from focusing on your failures. It will also make you more successful
during your day because you will be actively looking for things to do
that you feel are a success and can write down later in your journal.
And lastly the ‘next action’ step will keep you moving forward by
scheduling in action orientated moves that build on your successes.
But remember that even failures
are successes because you learn something from them. You can take
what you learned and apply it to your next day. You probably realize
that you don’t feel good eating crappy food and remember that
lesson for the next day, so even the realization of your failure
becomes a success!
Stop kicking yourself about
things you didn’t do before your head hits the pillow and start
focusing on your successes. Your health, happiness, and life will
thank you.
Source:
For more tips for success visit
Kari's personal development website at Manifest Connection.
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you click on the link and purchase the item, we will receive an
affiliate commission. Regardless, we only recommend products or
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Policy.
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