Low Self-esteem

"You were not born a winner, and you were not born a loser. You are what you make yourself be."
- Lou Holtz

Low self-esteem can interfere with your life. There are many reasons for people to have low self-esteem just as there are many ways to reduce or remove this issue.

The article below discusses this problem and offers some tips on moving forward with your life and overcoming low self-esteem

As always MWBA presents this information for your review and education. You should always consult with professionals, doctors, psychiatrists, etc, before starting any improvement program.

Michael Wilkovesky

The Dangers of Low Self Esteem - by Philip Fowler

Some may think that low self esteem just means a person does not think as highly of themselves as they should. That is a dangerously oversimplified definition of that phrase. At its worst, low self esteem can damage every aspect of a person’s life. It can have a negative impact on their job, relationships, ability to parent and even their ability to live a healthy life.

An Unhealthy Life

When someone suffers from very low self esteem, they may walk around with a “why bother” attitude. Because they think so poorly of themselves, they may not even bother trying to stay healthy. Many, but not all, people with low self esteem are overweight.

Being overweight and failing to exercise can lead to a host of health problems including heart disease and diabetes.


Dreams Unfulfilled

While people with low self esteem DO have dreams and goals, those dreams often go unfulfilled, because they constantly second guess their abilities. Keep in mind that even people that are extremely talented can suffer from low self esteem.

This thinking of “I can’t do it” often ends up being a self-fulfilling prophecy and the dreams one had are left unfinished.

A Generational Curse

One of the biggest tragedies of very low self esteem is that it is often passed to the next generation. A parent who thinks he or she is worthless often see their children as an extension of themselves and, therefore, the child must be worthless as well.

Even if they try very hard not to, many of these parents pass a message to their child that they are less than or not as good as others.

Of all of the reasons to try and find help for the problem, this is one of the most compelling. It is possible not to only hinder one’s own life with a burden of low self esteem, but to burden one’s children with that same weight.

Finding Help

For those wishing to find help for low self esteem, there are a couple of choices about where to start. The first is to start on your own. Take a class, and learn to do something new. Step outside your comfort zone by speaking up when you have a good idea. Start taking better care of yourself by eating healthy and starting an exercise plan. All of these ideas can put you on the path to raising your self worth.

Of course, the tips above are not going to be enough to help everyone. Some people may need professional help in order to begin seeing themselves as they really are: worthy of all the good things this world has to offer.

There is no shame in choosing to talk to someone about your low self esteem. A good counselor will help you learn to replace the negative messages (“I can’t do this”) with positive messages (“I can do anything if I give it my all”). Also, they may be able to help you pinpoint exactly where this started, and thus help you learn a whole new way of thinking about yourself.

You deserve to fulfill your goals. You deserve a happy relationship. Your kids deserve a parent who understands her own worth and can pass that on to them.
There are many reasons to try and improve low self esteem, but the best reason is the one staring at you in the mirror. The best reason is simply because you ARE worth it. 

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Are You Self-confident? Do You Display It?

"Always be a first-rate version of yourself, instead of a second-rate version of somebody else."
~ Judy Garland

When you meet someone do you show that you have self-confidence or do you come across as someone who is not too sure of themselves?

The article below gives some advice on how to show self-confidence to the outside world.

Michael Wilkovesky

Convey Self Confidence - Gain Respect - by Ian Russell

Has anyone ever said to you... push your shoulders back, puff your chest out, get your chin up – if so you have heard a few of the popular expressions people use to stimulate someone into making a good impression. These expressions indicate how important our bearing and body language are in imparting who we are to the world. If you are fortunate enough to have been brought up in a family with the means to enrol you in deportment and elocution lessons, these would have taught you how to carry yourself with elegance and poise thereby conveying an air of self-confidence to those around you. It is more likely, however, that the majority of readers, and indeed the writer, did not reap the benefits of lessons in etiquette. While you don’t have to speak like Queen Elizabeth to convey confidence, body language and intonation is important and here is why.

There is a lot of truth in the old saying that first impressions count. In fact, within just 5 seconds of meeting someone we will already have formed a judgement that will affect our behaviour towards them. It definitely isn’t easy getting ourselves noticed in this hectic modern world and when this is applied to a job market which is progressively more competitive, making the right impression can make or break your chances of having a successful interview or business deal.


Where to start? In a moment we will look at what not to do, but firstly let’s make ourselves aware that self-confidence is a form of strength and that is why it is so attractive to others. Bearing that in mind, try to portray yourself in a way that avoids you looking inhibited or vulnerable. Some examples of this type of body language are: hanging your head, slouching your shoulders, or avoiding direct eye contact. These particular actions imply to others that you have a problem with self-belief. Whether it’s for an interview or a business deal, you don’t have to be Einstein to see that people won’t believe in you as an ‘investment’ if the investment does not believe in itself. Correspondingly, in your personal life people will immediately pick up on the signals you give. Given that, what should be your plan of action?

The opposite of the examples given above should be first on the list - holding your head high and standing with your shoulders back are both confident gestures. But the most important signal of them all is eye contact. Maintaining eye contact while speaking and listening generates a sense of familiarity, resolve and sincerity between yourself and the other person. If I told you that a recent survey asked a group of venture capitalists what they looked for in a successful pitch and that the top answer mostly came back as eye contact, would you then take it seriously?

In order to install it as a natural aspect of your personality you will need to maintain an air of confidence at all times. This applies in every situation whether easy or stressful. It is a popular belief that you see the true measure of someone when the chips are down and in my own experience I have found that is usually the case. In stressful situations some people panic and rather than looking for a solution to the problem in a rational and composed way they will blame others and look for the easy way out. To be an effective leader who commands respect from their inferiors you must deal with stress in a positive and confident manner, if you can’t do this then perhaps being at the front is not for you. By remaining calm under pressure you are far more likely to project the right image to others.

What you display needn’t necessarily be the same as what you feel - even if your apparent demeanour is not a true reflection of what is going on inside, you will still convey the appropriate signals to encourage those around you. That is the remarkable thing about confident body language. All it takes is a simple gesture to inspire confidence and respect in those around you.

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Does Intelligence Equal Success?

“The difference between stupidity and genius is that genius has its limits.” - Albert Einstein

We all know many intelligent people who don't seem to be able to be successful in a business or in relationships.

The article below provides some information on how intelligence is measured and how it is perceived in our society.

Michael Wilkovesky

How Important is Intelligence For Success? - by Royane Rea

Although IQ tests measure a certain aspect of intelligence potential, there isn’t complete agreement that what is being measured is actually intelligence.

Standard intelligence tests focus a lot on exploring and measuring linguistic/logical/mathematical ability. But is that really the same quality as intelligence? Or is intelligence something broader than that?

We have all met people who have a lot of “book smarts” but seem to have no “life smarts.” Should we really be saying that they are intelligent? Some people who did poorly in school often turn out to be very successful in later life. Why do our current IQ tests seem unable to predict or explain these outcomes?

A person may have failed dismally in school, and yet turn out to be a genius in marketing. Is this person stupid, or brilliant? If a man is a great scientist, but can’t ever pick a suitable mate, is he really very smart?

Was Picasso inept because he wasn’t also a brilliant mathematician? Was Einstein inadequate because he wasn’t also a great artist?

Which of these two men had more intelligence? Is there more than one kind of intelligence? How should we define intelligence? Can we really measure it? What is intelligence, really?


Several experts in the field of intelligence have proposed that we need to broaden our understanding of what intelligence really is, and the role it plays in successful living.

Psychologist Howard Gardner of Harvard University has suggested that we should consider a wide range of talents and abilities as valid forms of intelligence.

In his intriguing book, “Frames of Mind: Theories of Multiple Intelligences”, Gardner has proposed the existence of at least seven types of intelligence: verbal-linguistic, logical-mathematical, visual-spatial, musical, bodily-kinesthetic, social-interpersonal and intra-personal.

Another psychologist, Robert Sternberg, has suggested we consider three distinct forms of intelligence. One type is the ability to think logically and rationally, doing well in an academic type of environment.

A second kind of intelligence identified by Sternberg is the ability to come up with creative solutions to real life situations. And the third type, according to Sternberg, is the ability to psychologically understand people and interact effectively with them.

A very different perspective on the IQ issue is presented by Daniel Goleman in his best-selling book, “Emotional Intelligence”. Goleman offers an explanation for why a high IQ does not always lead to success in career or in life.

He says that EQ, or emotional intelligence, has been an overlooked factor that is an extremely important ingredient for success in life. An ability to get along with others, to be optimistic, to be determined, are among the many factors that contribute to success, perhaps even more than intellectual ability.

Are you starting to realize that intelligence is not just a question of one test score number that forever limits your possibilities? If we define intelligence primarily as an aptitude for mathematical and linguistic/logical thinking, we may be missing other forms of intelligence that are also important.

If you happen to know your own IQ score, don’t think of it as something that limits or defines your potential. If your IQ is in the average range it does not in any way mean you are limited to a life of average success and average accomplishment. If your IQ is in the above average range, it does not guarantee you a life of ease. You can’t use either a high IQ score or a low one as an excuse not to try very hard.

Your IQ score is only a number. It does not define you. It does not really limit you. It’s just a starting point. Remember that many other qualities you already possess or can develop are also important for success in life. 

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Are You Self-confident?

“There can be no failure to a man who has not lost his courage, his character, his self respect, or his self-confidence. He is still a King.” - Orison Swett Marden

We all want to have confidence in ourselves. We like the idea that we can complete things and be more in control of our future.

The article below talks about 5 myths of self-confidence.

Michael Wilkovesky

5 Myths about Self-Confidence - by Bosschat

People who have self-confidence believe in themselves and feel that they are capable of achieving anything that they want to in life, or dealing with any situation that they may have to face. They have an aura of self-confidence and self-assurance, which is apparent to others. People like to spend time with them; they feel comfortable and secure in their presence.

In contrast, there are many people who are talented, but who lack self-confidence. These people are victims of the several myths that surround self-confidence.

Myth One: People are born with Self-Confidence

Nothing could be further from truth. Self-confidence, like other skill, can be learnt and built up. All that you need is the right guidance and a belief in yourself.

Myth Two: Only Good Looking People are Self-Confident

Some people blame their low self-confidence to their lack of good looks. They don’t realize that self-confidence has nothing to do with their looks. The only way they can overcome this myth is by learning to believe in themselves.


Myth Three: Only Talented People are Self-Confident

In fact, talent and self-confidence are not inter-related. There are scores of talented actors and actresses who do very well in their professions but whose personal lives are torn by lack of self-confidence. It may sound contradictory, but this is how life is. Talent can be an important component of self-confidence, but it is certainly not a substitute for self-confidence. So, don’t worry about lack of talent. Harness the skills that you possess.

Myth Four: Self Confidence is directly proportional to Praise Received

There is little doubt that recognition and praise make you feel good about yourself, and boost your self-confidence. But you can’t simply depend on the praise lavished by others. You have to work hard to earn that praise, and you can do this only if you are self-confident.

We should look at children. Children believe in themselves, and this gives them the self-confidence to try to do things they have never done before, be it learning how to cycle or swim. It does not take long to teach children most of the basic skills. Why should it be difficult for adults to learn new skills or brave new challenges?

Myth Five: Only Self-Confident People Can Afford to Take Risks

This again is not true. In fact, self-confident people are more realistic about their capabilities. They know what they can do, and what they can’t do. More importantly, they know how to deal with failures. In contrast, people who lack self-confidence are afraid of failure. This fear prevents them from taking on new tasks. They constantly pine for the approval of others, and when they don’t get it they end up losing their self-confidence.

It’s clear that there is a lack of understanding. Self-confidence is a state of mind. It is not dependent upon a person’s beauty or looks. It flows from a person’s self-belief, and this belief can be built. All that a person needs to do is to debunk myths that self-confidence cannot be acquired or that self-confidence is a byproduct of exceptional knowledge, skills and luck. Once they do so, they will find it easier to acquire the same magnetic powers that self-confident people have

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Success in Life

“Success in life is founded upon attention to the small things rather than to the large things; to the every day things nearest to us rather than to the things that are remote and uncommon.” - Booker T. Washington

We are more successful than we imagine, it is just that we sometimes sabotage our belief in our success by thinking or taking about the negatives that happened in our day.

The article below gives some advice and tips on overcoming this negative limiting belief.

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Michael Wilkovesky

How to Feel More Successful In Life - by Kari Farmer

Every day you accomplish tasks, meet goals, check things off your to-do list, and become more successful in life. You continuously work towards having the life that you want, and everything you do is one step towards that life. But if you are anything like me you don’t feel successful every single day of your life – even though you’ve accomplished a lot in your days.

Feeling like a failure is habit-forming. We constantly focus on the things that we don’t do, or don’t succeed at in life, and we call ourselves failures because of these things. The truth is we have many more successes in life than failures but we choose to put our attention on the things we didn’t get done.

I’m not just talking about huge things that we are striving to be successful at in our lives. I’m also talking about the little things that we do every day that affect how we feel about ourselves.

Let’s say you are a business man who is trying to further his career and lose weight as well. Here’s an example of a typical day:

- Drive to work with no accidents.
- Accomplish all the tasks set out to do.
- Exercise 1 hour.
- Make an important phone call.
- Send an important email.
- Learn something new.
- Eat really crappy food the entire day.

The list above contains a lot of successes throughout the day, and one failure in the eyes of someone trying to lose weight or eat healthier. What do you think he most likely focuses on at the end of the day? His focus will probably turn to the fact that he ate really crappy food all day and take over the spotlight from the rest of his successes during the day.

This is what many people do, and it’s hard to feel successful when you focus on your failures. But there is a way to feel more successful in your life! Put the majority of your focus on your successes!

You can do this by reminding yourself every night of the successes you had during the day instead of the failure, and build on those successful endeavours for future success.

One way to do this is by keep a success journal. Every night before you go to bed write down at least 5 things that you succeeded at during the day. This will be personal to you but it can range from brushing your teeth to landing the big account! Anything that furthered you in your life, made you feel better, made you do better, and pushed you forward is a success.

Write down your success, why you felt is was a success, how you can add-on to that success, and your next action to take towards that success.

For example:


Success – Made an important phone call


Reason – Built a new relationship with an important person.


Further progress – Keep in contact with that person.


Next action – Arrange a lunch meeting for next Thursday with this new contact.

Making a habit of doing a success journal nightly will allow you to see that there are many things that you do during the day that you are successful at and it will stop you from focusing on your failures. It will also make you more successful during your day because you will be actively looking for things to do that you feel are a success and can write down later in your journal. And lastly the ‘next action’ step will keep you moving forward by scheduling in action orientated moves that build on your successes.

But remember that even failures are successes because you learn something from them. You can take what you learned and apply it to your next day. You probably realize that you don’t feel good eating crappy food and remember that lesson for the next day, so even the realization of your failure becomes a success!

Stop kicking yourself about things you didn’t do before your head hits the pillow and start focusing on your successes. Your health, happiness, and life will thank you.

 

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Are You Stopping Your Success?

“Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts.” - Winston Churchill

Many people want success and do many things to get it. Unfortunately, many people sabotage their success because of fear. Fear of success.

The article below talks about this idea.

Michael Wilkovesky

Why Your Foot is on the Brake When Trying to Succeed in Life - by Noah St. John

Let's say you've been working really hard, trying to succeed. Maybe you started a new coaching program, or went to a seminar that really pumped you up, or read a new book that really made sense to you. You began to make positive changes in your life. You followed the instructions. And guess what? IT STARTS TO WORK.

After all your hard work, focus, and money that you spent, you actually start to get what you were going after. You're moving toward the thing you want. You're making progress, making more money. You're becoming more and more successful.

Then what happens? That's when the FEAR sets in!

As crazy as it sounds, you actually start to feel the feeling known as FEAR when you start to get what you've been working so hard for. But...

Why would someone feel FEAR when they start to get what they WANT?

This happened because, unbeknownst to you, your Scales of Success started to tip. Your Subconscious Why-Not-To's of Success - the ones you can't see, because they're hidden, remember? - started silently screaming at you:

"Hey, what do you think you're doing? You can't handle this! You're not going to be able to keep this going! Why don't you just stop now and avoid the embarrassment later?"

So, what do you do? You do what anyone would do in that situation. You do whatever it takes to STOP feeling the fear. That's because FEAR is one of those emotions we humans will do just about anything to avoid. So, rather than examining WHY you might be feeling that feeling, you stop doing what was working. You slam on the brakes. You "sabotage" yourself. Because doing that feels easier than feeling the fear.

And then, you get to beat yourself up - because you can tell yourself you were "right"! "See, I told you: I knew you couldn't handle it. Why even bother?"

Sound familiar? If you are nodding your head right now, this book was written especially for you. But what went unexamined in all this is a simple fact:

A feeling is a RESULT, not a cause.

Feelings don't cause themselves. When you experience a feeling or emotion, there is something going on inside of you that caused that feeling. And what causes the so-called "fear of success" or "foot-on-the-brake syndrome"? Your hidden, Subconscious Why-Not-To's of Success.
Here, then, is the bottom line:

You are NOT holding yourself back from Success because you don't know "how to succeed".
You are holding yourself back from the Success you are perfectly capable of, because you have more Subconscious Why-Not-To's of Success than Conscious Why-To's of Success.

Remember all those "traditional" success programs we're spending billions of dollars on? In traditional success programs, they teach you "how to succeed". And that's a good thing, right? I mean, if you want to do something, it's good to know "how" to do it.

And since we all want to succeed, all we'd need is to be told "how to succeed", then we'll all be successful... right?

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Since 1997, Noah has taught thousands the simple steps to enjoy more wealth faster, easier and with far less effort. 

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Success Through Goal Setting

“Successful people are simply those with successful habits.” - Brian Tracy


Setting goals is important for your success not just for business but for your life.

The article below outlines why goal setting is important as well as giving a method of setting your goals.

Michael Wilkovesky

Why Is Goal Setting Important To Your Life Success - By: Truman Burger

Why is goal setting important to you in your personal and career choice? Goal setting is an on going life long process that defines what direction an individual wants to go. Usually this is an idea or a wish for personal, business, relationship, etc. change. The SMART goal process is easy to apply.

Most people's biggest problem in goal writing, is where to begin. The first step is to decide what area of your life you want to improve or change. Would you like to drink more glasses of water each day? Would you like to have your credit cards under control? Does your business endeavors need expanding? Take out a sheet of paper immediately. Quickly, write down some things that you would like to see happen in your life. Cover all areas of your life, personal, relationship, business, charity, etc. You may have several in one category and none in another. Keep writing until you cannot think of anything else, but keep the list handy, because once this process starts, it will keep flowing.

Everyone remembers setting a New Year's resolution and two days into the New Year, the resolution is completely forgotten. The downfall for most people is that they do not write down their resolution. Pure and simple, the act of writing commits you. This commitment gives the goal setting power. With written objectives, everything gets accomplished.

There are tricks to goal setting that makes all aspirations possible. Apply the SMART principle.

Specific "Drink more water" is not specific. Drink 8 glasses of water per day, is.

Measurable You must be able to calculate results on your efforts. This goes back to being specific. By stating the desire to drink 8 glasses of water a day, you can record your progress.

Attainable Steps This is a very important aspect. If you are not a good water drinker, it doesn't bode well for saying that tomorrow I will drink 8 glasses of day. However, 4 glasses a day would be a good start

Relevant The more relevant your goal is, the greater the chances for success. If drinking more water improves your health and makes you feel better, you will be more apt to succeed.

Time Bound There has to be a time frame. This binds specific and measurable together. Now you need to pick a time-frame to your goal.

The whole idea is to set yourself up for the win. Put SMART into action.

Now the next important step is to record what is actually happening each day. Create a chart, broken down into weeks, with each day listed and record each step towards your objective. Then reward yourself. This could be a smiley face or a check mark for each successful day and a bigger reward at the end of a successful week. Tracking your actions provides for accountability. Who are you accountable to? Yourself, of course. Along with accountability comes the elation of accomplishment.

Will you have days that you do not accomplish your targeted level? Of course! The important part is to not beat up on yourself and give up. Reaffirm your commitment for the next day.

Goal setting is a lifelong process. Whether it is for personal or business reasons, the process remains the same. The completion of a goal prompts for another one. When you see the progress made, goal setting becomes a friend instead of something to avoid at all costs.

Just remember the SMART plan: Specific, measurable, attainable, relevant, and time bound. Look at the list you have written. Pick something small and easily attained. Decide on your why of that idea. Pick a time frame and create attainable steps. Begin now!!

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Your Success and Your Destiny

“Watch your thoughts, they become words.
Watch your words, they become actions.
Watch your actions, they become habits.
Watch your habits, they become your character.
Watch your character, it becomes your destiny. “


Unknown

We all want to be successful and to have a wealthy and healthy life full of abundance. All of this depends on your choices you make and the belief in the direction and path yo are following.

The article below talks about destiny and success and gives some very valuable tips.

To your successful life.

Michael Wilkovesky

Let Your Destiny Manifest Itself To Attain Life Success - By: GEby

What drives you? What is it that defines your entire persona? What are you living for?

Unfortunately, most people have are way ward of the very purpose they exist. Can you remember those days of your youthful exuberance when you undoubtedly believe you can achieve anything? Filled with unfathomable enthusiasm and driven with a determined resolution.

Sadly for most those days are long gone, they are the ghost of their former selves. Battered and beaten by the ravages of stress from work, society and life itself. So many haven’t dreamed in for so long that they actually don’t know what they want any longer! Don’t you think it’s time to stir up that dream inside of you? Your dreams and your destiny are not determined by “CHANCE” but by “CHOICE” It is solely your Decision.

The life you have now is the result in direct correlation to the Choices you’ve made in the past. But, sometimes you are hindered and stuck in mediocrity because you were afraid to make a sound Decision. You are just flowing along the stream that forces of nature roll you along. The kind of cavalier “Que Sera Sera” attitude is not only inexplicable it’s repulsive and inexcusable. Isn’t it time you got involved with your own life? Isn’t it time to start living through your own Decisions and take responsibility for your actions, be it the Choices you make in your life.

It’s your life, live it the way you see fit. It is a concept so simple yet people indignantly miss it therefore missing out how prolific it really is!

I believe that you can attain anything in life if you act on it and persevere to achieve it regardless the hindrances looming over. It’s your Decision, it is your Choice!

Quoting from Lewis Carrol’s Alice in Wonderland… Alice asked the cat, “Would you please tell me, which way I ought to go from here?” The cat answered, “That depends a great deal on where you are heading to.” Alice exclaimed, “Oh, I don’t much care.” “Then it really doesn’t matter which way you go, the cat remarked poignantly.

What are you trying to accomplish with your life? What do you want to attain? It’s your Choice, you are in direct control. Take responsibility for your actions and refrain from blaming others for your failures! Make a sound judgment for your Decisions, start by getting serious and get going! Life goes on, with or without you!

Here is an inspiring quote by Eleanor Roosevelt, “The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams.” Never let anybody steal your dream or vision!

You need to make a Decision! Don’t go on through life idly staving away when there is boatload of opportunity in front of you. It is much easier to make a course correction that it is to get started! It takes careful planning and solid preparation with corrections on the side. But before they can do that they had to make a Decision to take off first.

How do you process a Decision?

It is vitally important to grasps all the concepts. Never make 100% assumptions while only having 10% facts. It is illogical and impractical, you need to consider various solutions and objectively evaluate their consequences. Weighing the best and worst case scenarios, and then make sure that the Decision is congruent with your Goals, Plans and Mission statement. Lastly you must always effectively convey your judgment to your support team.

An ideal support team would be your family members, close friends, relatives who are helping out your cause, refrain from consulting with those who are dragging down.

Remember you are the architect of your life. You must be willing and able to make Choices. Your destiny is determined by Choice not by chance!

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Success in Life Through Motivation

“Our greatest weakness lies in giving up. The most certain way to succeed is always to try just one more time.” - Thomas A. Edison

Success seems to come easily to many people and for others, it is very elusive.


Motivation is the key to being successful. There are many ways to motivate oneself.


Below is an article talking about motivation and success.


Best of success in your life.


Michael Wilkovesky

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Motivation Is The Key To Success In Each Of Our Lives - By: Aniekan Udodong

Motivation is the key to success in each of our lives. While success is something that is relatively personal, and means something different to everyone, the ultimate goal of success is to achieve a goal, or a set of goals. Let's say that you asked ten different people what they feel an appropriate definition for success is, you may be surprised to find that each of these individuals have a different perception of success. While it is true that we all have our own perception of this term, there is one thing that remains consistent and unchanged, and that is that motivations are the key to success.


There are a number of things that get us excited. Let's say that you got that new job that you have had your eye on, or you just discovered that it is quite possible to get started in a home based business that can be financially lucrative. Chances are, you are total psyched about your new found opportunity, right? This excitement that you experience during times in which you have been given an opportunity for success is a type of motivation. It has been found, in addition to excitement being a type of motivation, that motivation is also a type of excitement. In order to succeed in life, it is equally important to be excited about the dreams and aspirations that you have, and in turn, this will result in the motivation that is required to be successful.


Motivation comes with its share of complications. The most common complication that is experienced when it comes to motivation is staying motivated. While it may be easy to remain motivated for a short amount of time, it takes a great deal of discipline to stay motivated over the course of a long period of time. If you want to achieve success in your life, you must have a number of creative approaches that will assist in maintaining the proper amount of motivation to do so. It is absolutely necessary to ensure that you dedicate time each and every single day to the motivation that you need.

One of the first ways that you can achieve a heightened state of Motivation is to read book that are available on the subject. There are a number of authors that are exceptional when it comes to sharing with their readers the secrets of success and motivation. These authors include Stephen Convey, John C. Maxwell, Dennis Waitley, and even Joyce Meyer. Just dedicating approximately fifteen to thirty minutes a day to the task of reading these types of books can be extremely helpful in motivating you while you work to achieve the success that you desire.


While this is just one example of a way that you can maintain a high level of Motivation it is a very positive and productive manner to stay on top of the excitement and motivation that you need to experience in order to achieve the goals that you have set for yourself. By achieving these goals, you will easily become the master of your destiny. You will truly achieve the success that you anticipate. In addition to this, you will learn effective strategies for being the best person that you can be! Get motivated! This is the key to your success


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Keeping Motivated – 10 Tips

“If you're going through hell, keep going.” - Winston Churchill


We all need to keep ourselves motivated, but how?


The article below gives us 10 ways to help us become and to maintain motivation.


To your continued success.


Michael Wilkovesky

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10 Ways To Motivate Yourself - By: Fadzil Dolmani

You are not the only one that feels very down because you feel dissatisfied with your current life. Do not let this feeling bring you down further. You must have some dreams in your life that you want to achieve. Lets look at how you can actually achieve whatever your dreams are by instilling self motivation, which you require most to ensure your journey to success will not end half way. You need to create and develop your own self motivation to bring you the energy and enthusiasm to pursue the dreams of your life.


You need some kind of motivational drive in anything you do. At work, you may need your colleague or boss to motivate you to accomplish your task. At home, you may need your family member to share some motivational thoughts to keep you energetic in your pursuit of your dreams. They can sit with you all day trying to keep you motivated. Again, all these will be meaningless when you yourself fail to acknowledge that you need more lasting drive to really keep your enthusiasm, that is, your self motivation. This is the quality that will separate you from the rest of the people.


Most of you may be thinking that this is going to be a very daunting task as you do not have the slightest idea of how you are going to go about this. You will be surprised as how easy this can really be done. Here are the 10 things that you need to follow:


1. Stop worrying about making mistakes.


Making mistakes is one way we can learn and improve in our life. There is no one that has never made any mistake. The most important thing here is you realize that you have made mistakes and do not repeat the same mistakes again. You will learn the most from your mistakes than any other way.


2. Feel happy about your life.


Happiness generates more positive energy within you. This energy is important to keep you more optimistic and enthusiastic about your life. Happy people are always motivated to accomplish something in their life.


3. Get out of your comfort zone.


You need to learn to get into unfamiliar surroundings to explore better opportunities. Do not just stick around with the same people, same known places, skills or work. Explore new things that will enhance your ability to achieve your goals and keep you stay motivated.


4. Think the unthinkable.


Nothing will stop you from thinking of goals you want to achieve. You have to dream high in order to set high goals. Everything starts with a dream. Do not limit yourself in your goals and dreams.


5. Read and listen to inspirational materials.


You need to allocate your time to acquire knowledge through reading motivational books and listening to inspirational tapes. But, you must also implement what you learn from your reading and listening. New things you learn from these exercises will give you excitement and energy to work harder toward achieving your goals.


6. Resolve problems instead of running away.


Your ride to success destination will not be smooth all the time. You will face difficulties. Do not quit when you experience predicaments in your quest to achieve your dreams. Frustrations and setbacks naturally form as parts of your success venture.


7. Appreciate every moment of your life.


Think of what your life really is as of now. Appreciate every moment you have currently. Thinking about the past or day dreaming about the future will not bring you anywhere. Appreciating your current conditions makes you feel much better and realize the need to move forward to achieve your goals.


8. Finish what you start.


Once you have started something, finish it. Never leave what you do halfway regardless of the end result. This will make you accustomed to finishing any task you initiate, which is important if you really want to achieve your goals in life.


9. Face challenges one at a time.


Challenges are components in your success journey. Take up one challenge at a time. Do not try to accumulate and face them at one go. As the challenges accumulate, you will only feel less motivated to face them and finally unable to complete anything.


10. Care less about what people say.


You may hear a lot of bad things people say about you. Sometimes those bad comments may come from somebody close to you. As long as you fully know what you are doing to achieve your goals, you can let those comments fall into deaf ears. Thinking too much about what people say will only make you weaker and loose focus on your effort.


Of course, this list does not just stop here. To instill and develop your self motivation, there are more ways you can do. But, if you can really comprehend and take the appropriate actions just based on these 10 things, you will definitely see the results.


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Life Success Needs Rules?

“Believe in yourself! Have faith in your abilities! Without a humble but reasonable confidence in your own powers you cannot be successful or happy.” - Norman Vincent Peale


Success, we all want it and we all try to achieve it, but many believe that they are not going to be successful.


The article below puts forward 5 rules for success. If you follow them, success is not guaranteed but you will get closer.


Enjoy


Michael Wilkovesky

5 Rules For Success In Life - By: Kari Farmer

Success in life is defined differently by many different people. Some think success means having all the money you want to buy all the toys you want. Some think success is being loved by a large family and always having friends around. Whatever your definition of success is, there are some rules for success in life that should be followed in order to really be satisfied and feel accomplished.


Rule For Success #1 – Take Action


This is the biggest rule of them all. If you don’t take action then you can’t reach the desired outcome. Many people let fear hold them back from going out and getting what they want, but you will find that if you can overcome that fear then you will start achieving things you’ve always wanted to achieve.


Rule For Success #2 - Be Positive


If you are not positive then chances are you will not try. This is part of the fear. You tell yourself that you will never achieve that dream anywase so why bother. Or maybe you put yourself down and tell yourself you are not good enough, fast enough, smart enough, or rich enough to get the things you want. You have pretty much given up before you have even started at this point. Gain some self-confidence and be positive about your abilities, then go out and achieve your dreams!


Rule For Success #3 - Think Outside the Box


If you follow the crowd then you will get the same results that the crowd gets. If you step outside of the line and think for yourself, then you will get your own unique results. Those unique results will be the ones that make you feel successful, because they were defined by you as something worth achieving.


Rule For Success #4 - Don’t Always Listen to Your Elders


Your elders have a lot of life experience, and they can help you avoid making huge mistakes in your life, but a lot of what they tell you is from their own opinions and fears. Maybe they tell you that the only way to earn a safe and secure living is to work for the government. That’s simply not true. But because that is their opinion they do not waiver on it, and they can be very convincing as well.


The truth is, there are probably a lot of things they didn’t try in their life that you would like to try, and because they are fearful of it they will not accept it as a logical way to go about life. But that shouldn’t hold you back from making it your way of life. You may find happiness and success on that path, where you wouldn’t find it on the path they want you to take.


Rule For Success #5 - Don’t Listen to Naysayers


There will be a lot of negative people who put down your dreams and desires. They can influence you to stop working towards your success altogether. But you can’t listen to these people because the reasons they have don’t apply to you. You are an individual who has a lot to offer. They may be jealous, miserable, and negative people who don't believe in anyone or anything. Their opinion is a reflection of their beliefs.


An example of this is Elvis Presley. He had many negative people come into his life. For instance, he once tried out for a local vocal quartet, and was rejected on the premise that he couldn’t sing! He shortly tried out for another band and was told to stick to his truck driving career because he was never going to make it as a singer! Can you imagine if he had listened to those people? He may have given up altogether, and our world would have never heard his voice and been changed because of it.





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Feeling Successful

“I have failed many times, and that's why I am a success.” - Michael Jordan (1963 - )


Everyday we do things that are successful, however on most days we go home and say the day wasn't a success at all. We tend to forget all of the little things that we do each day and only focus on the negatives.


We need to do some very simple things that highlight our successes each day. One thing suggested below is to keep a Success Journal. This way you can look back and realize that the day was pretty good.


Journalling everyday for success.


Michael Wilkovesky

How To Feel More Successful In Life, By: Kari Farmer

Every day you accomplish tasks, meet goals, check things off your to-do list, and become more successful in life. You continuously work towards having the life that you want, and everything you do is one step towards that life. But if you are anything like me you don’t feel successful every single day of your life – even though you’ve accomplished a lot in your days.


Feeling like a failure is habit-forming. We constantly focus on the things that we don’t do, or don’t succeed at in life, and we call ourselves failures because of these things. The truth is we have many more successes in life than failures but we choose to put our attention on the things we didn’t get done.


I’m not just talking about huge things that we are striving to be successful at in our lives. I’m also talking about the little things that we do every day that affect how we feel about ourselves.


Let’s say you are a business man who is trying to further his career and lose weight as well. Here’s an example of a typical day:


- Drive to work with no accidents.
- Accomplish all the tasks set out to do.
- Exercise 1 hour.
- Make an important phone call.
- Send an important email.
- Learn something new.
- Eat really crappy food the entire day.


The list above contains a lot of successes throughout the day, and one failure in the eyes of someone trying to lose weight or eat healthier. What do you think he most likely focuses on at the end of the day? His focus will probably turn to the fact that he ate really crappy food all day and take over the spotlight from the rest of his successes during the day.


This is what many people do, and it’s hard to feel successful when you focus on your failures. But there is a way to feel more successful in your life! Put the majority of your focus on your successes!


You can do this by reminding yourself every night of the successes you had during the day instead of the failure, and build on those successful endeavours for future success.


One way to do this is by keep a success journal. Every night before you go to bed write down at least 5 things that you succeeded at during the day. This will be personal to you but it can range from brushing your teeth to landing the big account! Anything that furthered you in your life, made you feel better, made you do better, and pushed you forward is a success.


Write down your success, why you felt is was a success, how you can add-on to that success, and your next action to take towards that success.


For example:


Success – Made an important phone call


Reason – Built a new relationship with an important person.


Further progress – Keep in contact with that person.


Next action – Arrange a lunch meeting for next Thursday with this new contact.


Making a habit of doing a success journal nightly will allow you to see that there are many things that you do during the day that you are successful at and it will stop you from focusing on your failures. It will also make you more successful during your day because you will be actively looking for things to do that you feel are a success and can write down later in your journal. And lastly the ‘next action’ step will keep you moving forward by scheduling in action orientated moves that build on your successes.


But remember that even failures are successes because you learn something from them. You can take what you learned and apply it to your next day. You probably realize that you don’t feel good eating crappy food and remember that lesson for the next day, so even the realization of your failure becomes a success!


Stop kicking yourself about things you didn’t do before your head hits the pillow and start focusing on your successes. Your health, happiness, and life will thank you.


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